Immaculate Heart of Mary Catholic Church

Homily for February 19, 2006
Liturgical Year B-Cycle II
7th Sunday in Ordinary Time
by Fr. John Carney
Topic:  True Friendship
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Gospel
Mk 2: 1-12
When Jesus returned to Capernaum after some days, it became known that he was at home. Many gathered together so that there was no longer room for them, not even around the door, and he preached the word to them. They came bringing to him a paralytic carried by four men. Unable to get near Jesus because of the crowd, they opened up the roof above him. After they had broken through, they let down the mat on which the paralytic was lying. When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic, “Child, your sins are forgiven.” Now some of the scribes were sitting there asking themselves, “Why does this man speak that way? He is blaspheming. Who but God alone can forgive sins?” Jesus immediately knew in his mind what they were thinking to themselves,  so he said, “Why are you thinking such things in your hearts? Which is easier, to say to the paralytic, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Rise, pick up your mat and walk?’ But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority to forgive sins on earth” —he said to the paralytic, “I say to you, rise, pick up your mat, and go home.” He rose, picked up his mat at once, and went away in the sight of everyone. They were all astounded and glorified God, saying, “We have never seen anything like this.”
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Last night and this morning, as Deacon Ray read the Gospel, I was kind of taking a peek at a lot of your faces.  You are terribly serious people.  I don’t think we’re listening with our imaginations.  You heard what happened.  Jesus came home and he was preaching in this house, maybe his own house.  The crowds were so great that the house was filled.  In front of the house there were great crowds and here comes these four guys carrying their buddy, who’s paralyzed on a stretcher or on a mat of some sort.  Goodness knows how far they carried him.  They probably dropped him three or four times.  They get to the scene and they say, “Oh no.  We can’t even get close,”  but that doesn’t stop them.  I guess they went around to the back.  I don’t know.  I was guessing that this house, wasn't very high, maybe nine feet tall. Somehow, they got this guy on the roof.  They got up on the roof with him and then they disassembled the roof.  Some versions say, “They dug out the roof”.  The roofs of Palestinian homes had slats on them and then lattices, not unlike some of our adobe homes.  They filled in the lattice area with grass and mud.  So, these men, disassembled the roof and lowered this character down. 
 
That’s a pretty good story.  We need to listen with our imaginations, I guess, when Jesus was in the house and what was going on with the roof?  Then the roof comes apart and here comes this body.  I’m sure people helped them.  So, there’s our hero laying there and Jesus looking at him. What does Jesus do?  He looks on him with love. He sees his sins and he says, “Your sins are forgiven.”  There is no reference that Jesus even realized he was paralyzed.  Jesus looked right into his soul and saw that he was alienated from God and he loved him and he said "your sins are forgiven you."
 
I want to talk about his friends though.  I’d like to meet those guys.  I want friends like that.  No doubt they took their friend to Jesus to be healed and indeed they got more than they asked for.  He was healed, body and soul or soul and body.  They were good friends.
 
What is a friend?  Webster tells us: a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.  A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or a cause, a comrade.  That’s the best Webster could do but friends are more than that, aren’t they?  As a matter of fact, a friend is something that almost defies definition.  You know who your friend is and it’s hard to describe what that means.  One thing it means is that you love that person.
 
There’s a saying, “that friends don’t let friends drive drunk," and that’s true.  A friend is always concerned about his friends.  He’s concerned with the greatest good, life itself.  If you’re a real friend or if you have real friends, then you confront each other.  You also affirm each other.  You comfort each other.  You encourage each other. You pat your friend on the back.  But you also rebuke them.
 
I golf with some guys and if you make a bad shot, they’ll say, “That was the worst shot I’ve ever seen.  That was terrible," and they’re being honest.  Especially when they’re watching me.  A friend has less concern with the judgment his friend will have on him than with the well being of the friend.  That’s the way Jesus treated his friends.  Ask Peter, when you see him in heaven one day, if he knows what it is to be rebuked by a friend.
 
If we love someone and if they’re our friend, we’re naturally concerned about him or her, their physical and their spiritual well being.  We’re not afraid to be honest with them, right?  However, how often have we heard this, or maybe it’s unsaid but understood?  “I was afraid to say anything to him.  I feared I might lose his friendship.”  Well, maybe you would, but if you are afraid to speak, you aren’t a friend worth keeping, anyway.  How about this one?  “Well, who am I to judge?”  More people, more cowardly Christians, hide behind that scriptural mandate than can be counted.  How about the other scriptural mandate? “Speak the truth and love.”  How about the scripture, “If your brother sins against you, confront him.  If he doesn’t listen to you, get the priest.  If he doesn’t listen to you and the priest, then treat him as you would a non-friend.”  That’s paraphrased.
 
St. James says, “whoever brings back a sinner from the error of his way, will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins.”  You know we can all judge sin and its effects.  You know what sin is and what it does.  If you don’t, then you need a friend to tell you. 
 
I think there’s a way to help our friends without appearing to be judgmental.  People in sin will be unhappy, you know what I mean?  They’re not happy when they’re in sin and they’re vulnerable.  They’re vulnerable not only to sin and its effects but they’re vulnerable to friendship and God’s love.  So, show them warmth and interest and concern.  Pray for them and do penance for them. 
 
St. John Chrysostom said, “I can’t believe in the salvation of anyone who does not work for the salvation of his neighbor.”  But, of course, before we help our friends, we need to take a good look at ourselves.  Do that this week.  Look at yourself.  What do you see?  What does Jesus see?  If that hole in the roof was open and you were presented before Him, what would He see? 
 
Sin separates us from God, from each other, from ourselves. Jesus wants to end that separation to forgive us and unite us to Himself.  To do that, we need to be presented before him and that takes an initiative on our part and it takes courage.  I think you know where I’m heading again.  Yesterday, I heard confessions from 2:00 till 3:30.  Five people, five.  Man, you are the most sinless bunch I have ever experienced in my life.
 
How often do you need to go to confession?  I don’t know.  Some people can go to confession just once a year and they’re virtually sinless.  There are many, many people like that.  Now for me, at least once every three months.  Never mind, don’t even think, it’s none of your business, and it’s no great scandal anyway.  But I mean, if I don’t go to confession about every three months, then I start to nag myself, my conscience gets to me, you know what I mean?  But many of you here this morning, haven’t been to confession in ten years.  You know that.  That’s not right.
 
I’m not going to get into my sermon on confession.  It’s a sacrament.  It was instituted by Christ.  There is no question.  The first thing he did when he rose from the dead is he breathed on his disciples and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit; whose sins you shall forgive they are forgiven; whose sins you shall hold bound, they’re held bound." There’s no question that Christ gave us this gift of reconciliation.  There’s no question so “don’t go there."  Go there (pointing at the reconcilliation room).  I really encourage you.  Father Joshua will be with us the next couple of months and I’ll be here.  We’ll meet the need; we’ll put extended hours; we’ll do whatever it takes.  I really encourage you to use this beautiful sacrament.  You’ll never regret it.  You’ll just be so blessed and free and you won’t regret it.
 
I was in Medjugorje about five years ago, six, seven years ago and I went to confession.  I did a general confession for my whole life.  I was a priest at the time but I was nagged by some stuff, you know?  I went to see a wonderful priest there and came out of the confession about twenty minutes later and it was like a new day.  There was honeysuckle all around the place.  I didn’t smell it on the way in but I smelled it on the way out.  I was just in a state of peace and happiness for probably, at least three days.  It’s a great gift.  Get cleaned up and bring your friends there too, and challenge your friends.  If you love someone and you know they’re doing wrong, then call them on it, call your family on it, your brothers, your sisters.  They won’t hate you if you do it right.
 
God bless you.