Immaculate Heart of Mary Catholic Church

Homily for November 27, 2005
Liturgical Year B-Cycle II
1st Sunday of Advent
by Fr. John Carney
Topic: Christmas Stress
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Reading II
1 Cor 1:3-9

Brothers and sisters:
Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.

I give thanks to my God always on your account for the grace of God bestowed on you in Christ Jesus, that in him you were enriched in every way, with all discourse and all knowledge, as the testimony to Christ was confirmed among you, so that you are not lacking in any spiritual gift as you wait for the revelation of our Lord Jesus Christ. He will keep you firm to the end, irreproachable on the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is faithful, and by him you were called to fellowship with his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

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There are 29 days until Christmas.  I’m sure many of us just thought, “29 more … shopping days until Christmas.”  I love Christmas.  I really do.  A lot of my affection for Christmas is from my childhood memories.  I grew up in New York City and even New York City is beautiful at Christmas, especially when it snows.  The snow is white, for about two hours.  But I remember the sights and going down to Manhattan, to Rockefeller Center,, the Great Tree,  the skating rink, the music, and the smells.  “Chestnuts roasting on an open fire . . .”  See, I can sing better than you!  No school, snow, no school, Santa Claus, no school.  Without fail, I always found where my mother hid the presents.
 
I also remember Christmas as being sometimes sad and a time of some tension and stress in the family, as well.  Now, I am convinced, some of you won’t know what I am talking about.  You really haven’t experienced these problems at the holidays; Ozzie and Harriet, Rickie and David, and a few others.  But most families, I think, would agree, that the holidays can be stressful.  I’d like to address that tonight because I don’t think it should be that way.  I think the holidays should be a wonderful time, a time of peace and happiness, and gratitude.
 
We begin Advent because we need to prepare for Christmas.  Actually, Advent has two different parts to it.  From now until the 17th of December, we are preparing for Christ’s coming at the end of time, the Judgment.  The scriptures read, “Watch.”  There is a warning tone to them.  From the 17th of December until Christmas Eve, the focus changes to the coming of Christ at Christmas.  29 days to prepare for the great feast, the great event of Christ’s coming, a season of prayer and penance.  Contrast what that is to what happens out there.  Did you watch the news about the sales yesterday morning?  Did you see that big fight?  I don’t know where that was but it was a brawl, I think, at a Wal‑Mart somewhere.  Was it in Michigan?  There were fist fights.  Is that where that was?  A lot of the stores, even locally, opened at 5 AM.  The people were lined up around the corner to get a $20 gift certificate.  They must need money bad. Five o'clock in the morning.  Fighting and struggling to buy stuff.  They’re sick.  If you were out there with them, get help, there’s something wrong with you. As for myself,  I was on the golf course yesterday. 

 
I hear this every year, I heard it again on one of the news network shows, “The success of Christmas depends on preparations made before Thanksgiving.”  They’re of course talking about commerce.  But the success of Christmas depends upon the birth of Christ and it has been a success for 2000 years.  They remind us that in many businesses, half of their annual business is done in November and December, in just these two months.  So it is important.  We need to support the economy.  Go and spend money.  Don’t die with any money because your kids will fight over it.  Spend it, or give it to the church, we’ll accept it.
 
By the way, I did my Christmas shopping in an hour and fifteen minutes.  I bought 31 gifts.  Online.  Most of them are already gift wrapped.  And then I got 20 of them but they weren’t marked which was which.  So, I had to open them, and I got mad because you know I could never put them back together again.  How did I know?  Anyway, that’s my problem.  It was a very stressful moment.  I know how you feel. 

Christmas can be a time of family tension.  I will never forget the time in the Army when I was working in the National Military Command Center at the Pentagon.  It’s known as the War Room.  You've seen it in movies.  Each Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter, I would volunteer to work because my family, my mom and dad, my sister, niece and nephews, were here in New Mexico and I was in Washington
.  I didn’t have any immediate family close by  and so,  I would volunteer for one of the married guys, or gals, to take his or her place, and that way they could be with their families. This one time, I asked this fellow,  “I know you have the swing shift, the day shift. I’ll trade with you.  You take one of my shifts next month or something.”  he said, “Oh, no.  I was happy when I came out on list.”  He said, “It will be the first Christmas in 20 years that I can relax.”  Can you imagine? At work.  In the War Room!  It was more peaceful for him there than it was at home.  Now again, maybe this doesn’t apply to your family.  But it sure applied to mine.  And it doesn’t have to be that way.
 
Psychologists tell us this is the most distressing time of year.  This joyful, beautiful, wonderful season, is the most psychologically stressful time of the year.  I Googled up “Christmas stress”; got 14,400 hits in 0.33 seconds.  It’s a huge problem and it doesn’t have to be that way with us.  And why is it?  I think there’s lots of reasons.  I suspect that people prepare for something to be beautiful and wonderful, and then it’s not because they prepare for the wrong thing.  They prepare for a day that’s perfect, with a great meal, the perfect presents, friendship all around and it doesn’t turn out that way.  Perhaps, in some of your families, you have a difficult relative or two.  They will be there to try to ruin the day.  But don’t let them!  Love them anyway.  They are an occasion of grace for you.  They’re not going to change.  It’s up to you. 
 
The problem is, people prepare for the wrong thing.  Advent tells us we should be preparing for the coming of Christ in our lives.  If you can, on Christmas Day or Christmas Eve, if you can look in the mirror and say, “I am ready to meet Christ,” and really mean it, if you can say, “If Christ comes now, I’m ready,” I guarantee you will have a great Christmas because that’s the most important thing.  We can decide this evening how our December is going to be.  It’s up to each one of us how will we spend these next 29 days and set our priorities accordingly.  Don’t worry about gifts.

St. Paul
told us in the second reading,
“You are not lacking in any spiritual gift as you wait for the revelation of our Lord, Jesus Christ.” 
That’s the gift of Christmas, the en-fleshment of the Living God in a human person, Jesus Christ.  A human person that can touch us in this Eucharist, give us His love, love that we can pass on to one another.  That’s the greatest gift ever given.  It’s ours for the taking.

St. Paul tells us,

“Brothers and sisters, may the Lord make you increase in abounding love to strengthen your hearts, so that you may be blameless in holiness before our God and Father, at the coming of our Lord, Jesus Christ, with all His Holy Ones.” 
Through Christ, Our Lord, Amen.