Immaculate Heart of Mary Catholic Church

Homily for September 12, 2004
Year C - Cycle II
24th Sunday in Ordinary Time
By Dcn. Ray Alcouffe
Topic: Forgiveness
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Gospel Reading:  
Luke 15:32

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. . . We must celebrate and rejoice because he was lost and has been found."
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Today, St. Paul tells us "Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners." In the Gospel, we hear from Jesus himself, who gives us a trilogy of parables whose main theme is: Come, celebrate with me and rejoice because what was lost has been found. In other words, a sinner has been saved and it is cause not for condemnation but for rejoicing.  Well now, we are all in that distinguished company of what we call sinners and we have all accepted Jesus Christ.  Thus, we are saved - but - have we all had the experience of being lost and now are found? There are some who have had that experience and can relate very well to these parables. Does this apply to the rest of us? Do we have a reason to rejoice? IT DOES AND WE DO.

Jesus is giving us these parables not to congratulate the big sinners for their great conversion but as a warning and wake up call to all of us sinners.  This is articulated as a minor theme.  We hear at the beginning, "But the Pharisees and Scribes began to complain saying, "This man welcomes sinners and eats with them." This theme is picked up by the older son, "He became angry and said, 'Look, all these years I served you and not once did I disobey your orders; yet you never gave me even a young goat to feast on with my friends.'"  In a nutshell, the minor theme is that resentment overwhelms our lives even in the presence of the good that is from God and we cannot then join in the celebration and rejoice.

Thus, it seems that the key for us to live joyful lives, is in how we handle our resentments.  Resentment is defined as a feeling of displeasure or indignation that comes from a sense of being injured or offended.  Resentments come in all shapes and strengths, from minor irritations to deep pain and from the deliberate acts of malice against us.  Harboring resentments or holding grudges work their destructiveness on us and on others.  We have been witnesses to their destruction in the events of three years ago today and in the tragedies from suicide bombers at that Russian school two weeks ago. Harboring resentments also work their destructiveness on our body, soul and spirit.   Scholarly psychological research has shown that the harmful physical effects are cardiovascular damage and pulmonary disorders. The psychological effects are anxiety and obsessions.  There are profound spiritual effects because harboring resentments eats away at inner peace and kills the joy of life.  But we all still do it. We seem to enjoy our resentments without realizing it.  It is said, though, that entertaining resentments is like taking poison and then waiting for the other guy to die.

As the definition says, resentments come from two sources - a sense of being offended and a sense of being injured.  The sense of being offended is an expression of our powerlessness in the face of certain events.  A partial list includes: facing old age; coping with bad or declining health; the incompetence of government; taxes; a spouses irritating habits; grown children who reject our values; mismanagement in the work place.  The list goes on but how do we cope with it?  The short answer is that you have to let go of the resentment.  One-way of doing that is to apply the wisdom of the first three steps of the12 step program of AA: (1) admit that I am powerless to lose my resentments, (2) there is one who can, (3) I ask the Lord to do just that.

Resentments that come from a sense of being injured require a proactive response - it goes by the name of FORGIVENESS.  In the book, "The Art of Forgiving" by Lewis Smedes, we read, "We forgive when someone does something that hurts us and that we can blame them for.  Forgiveness is a journey - The deeper the wound, the longer the journey."  Forgiveness is not about forgiving the person, it is about forgiving their actions that hurt us.

Joan and I have had this experience together when our son Mike was critically injured in a car wreck in Las Cruces 21 years ago this month.  As he was laying in the ICU, fighting for his recovery, Joan was at his side. I had just left with our other four kids so that they could get back to school. The father of the boy that was driving the other vehicle called Joan out of the ICU.  He asked how Mike was doing and then asked Joan what we were going to do about the damage to his vehicle (a Bronco with a dent in the front bumper).  This is the man who had pulled his insurance coverage off his vehicle when his son turned 18 and let the boy drive it without insurance.  Joan got livid. When she told me about, I felt this seething anger grow in me.  Even now, after all this time, I can feel that anger as I remember the hurt that was inflicted on Joan.  But we have forgiven the insensitivity of that father.  We haven't seen or heard from him since but his actions are forgiven - not for his sake but for ours.  For our physical, psychological and spiritual health, we had to let go of our resentment by forgiving.

Our hurt is nothing like the hurt and pain I imagine of those caught in the concentration camps of the Holocaust. Yet, even there, the spirit of forgiveness shines forth when an unknown woman in the Ravensbruck Concentration Camp wrote this prayer and pinned it to the dead body of a little girl there. "Oh Lord, remember not only the men and women of good will but also those of ill will.  But do not remember all the sufferings they have inflicted on us.  Remember rather the fruits we have bought, thanks to our suffering: our comradeship, our loyalty, our humility, our courage, our generosity; the greatness of heart, which has grown out of all this.  And when they come to judgment, let all the fruits which we have borne be their forgiveness."

I agree with Smedes when he says, "Forgiving is the only way to heal the wounds of a past we cannot change and cannot forget.  Forgiving changes a bitter memory into a grateful memory.  It is the height of self-respect to forgive."

When we are in the far country of harboring our resentments, we are lost.  When we make the decision to release ourselves from resentment, either through forgiveness or offering them to God to take away, we become found.  To the degree we become found, that is, become a part of God's life, joy comes into our lives and we once again join in the major theme of today's Gospel and can celebrate and rejoice.

God Bless you all.